The Drama Triangle at work

A very useful way of understanding where things can go wrong with the way we tackle problems involving other people – both at work and in our personal lives – is the Drama Triangle. This explains how we can easily find ourselves in the role of victim, persecutor or rescuer (or victim, villain and hero – as in all good dramas!), in ways which keep us stuck in a problem situation.  The two short videos below have slightly different, but equally useful, takes on this dynamic. They also explain how to get unstuck and find more creative ways to solve problems.

Lauren Kress (5.33 mins)

the Conscious Leadership Group (3.21 mins)


So this is what keeps going wrong . . .

I’ve just discovered this brilliant description of the way things gradually go wrong between people.

When something bothers us, don’t we all ask ourselves “Should I say something? Will it make things worse? Nahh – it’s too small to bother about. I’ll let it pass.”

Months later, we’re at the point where we can’t say anything at all, in case we explode. Too often, it ends up going all HR on somebody.

John Scherer knows what to do instead . . .  (skip to 2.10 to get right in to it).